The great penis debate never seems to end. Throughout history men have had this infatuation with their organ that brings pride, pleasure, and insecurity all in one package. You ask the majority of men how they feel about their penis and almost all of them will say it’s not “big enough”, “long enough”, or “thick enough”. However, in the exact opposite behavior they’ll gladly solicit a prideful dick pic to any woman that will pay attention to him…even without the woman’s consent. I mean, I get dick pic DM’s all the time when I don’t want them. Why is that? On one hand they are ashamed of what it looks like, but on the other they gladly show it off. Now I’m not here to debate the mysterious thought processes of men, but I wanted you to think about this while reading.
I have asked numerous men that I don’t know to share a picture of themselves naked, or at a minimum a picture of their penis for my post. I was surprised at the number who gladly sent pics either through email or direct message on Instagram and Twitter.
A small portion of men have what most medical professionals call “micro-penis”, but most have been on the “average” (another pic) part. Of course, I’m not doing any kind of official scientific study, but it goes to show that most men don’t fall into the “large” (add pic) penis sizes. You will find most fall into the “average” size range. The reason I am using “ ” is to signify that the size mentioned is very relative. Every woman is different, and what’s “small” for one woman can be “big” for another.
study published by the Journal of Urology provided some clinical and
scientific evidence of actual penis sizes. A few quick facts regarding
- Although 85 percent of women may be satisfied with the size and proportion of their partners penis, men are less sure of themselves.
- As much as 45 percent of men believe they have a small penis
- Across studies, flaccid penis length average from 7-10 centimeters (2.8-3.9 inches).
- Flaccid circumference or girth average ranges from 9-10 centimeters (3.5-3.9 inches).
- Erect lengths average from 12-16 centimeters (4.7-6.3 inches)
- Erect circumference is around 12 centimeters (4.7 inches)
- Average flaccid length was around 8.8 centimeters (3.5 inches)
- Average erect length was around 12.9 centimeters (5.1 inches)
The study provided further evidence that the flaccid length of a penis had no bearing on what the actual erect length would be, and those with different sizes of flaccid penises may actually have a similar size when erect. The common slang classification is grower for a shorter flaccid penis, and a shower for one that doesn’t grow much, if at all, when erect. So all of those lingering fears you have while standing in the shower or locker room with other men are a fabrication of thoughts due to men’s own insecurities, and you should not let varying flaccid sizes determine your manhood. Although the appearance of a larger flaccid penis may spark an initial excitement, the actual ability for it to bring pleasure is a totally different category. Most women don’t really care what size your flaccid penis is as long as it gets the job done. Even if you have a below average penis size you can still be very effective in bed with your lover. Sometimes it just takes a bit of creativity and research, but mostly it’s your ability to understand what your partner likes or doesn’t like. Personally, sex has gotten way better as we’ve gotten older. We communicate with each other during and after so we can make it better. If you’re in business you may recognize this a continuous improvement.
A few interesting findings you may find surprising:
The race of the male had not bearing on penis size. Basically, it doesn’t mean all black men have huge dicks. Statistically speaking, each race had the same size distribution among all measurements. You may recognize this as the bell curve.
Self measured/reported penis sizes were almost always larger than a controlled medical professional measurement.
Penis size measurements were taken on top of the penis from the pubic bone to the tip. What this means is the medical professional pushed in the skin and fat on the pubic area to reach where the penis actually started. Men who are carry extra fat around the belly and pubic bone have the appearance of a smaller penis. Some of it is hidden in the extra fat, so if you want to appear bigger, work on dropping that extra weight!!
I’ve written a short post here about how to measure your penis based on the methodology of medical professionals.
Anyway, enough playing with penis’ because we want to “dive into” the woman’s crown jewel of love…
most commonly used measurements regarding the size of vaginas come from
Masters and Johnson’s work from the 1960s. They looked at 100 women who
had never been pregnant and
found that vagina lengths, non-stimulated, range from 2.75 inches to
about 3¼ inches. When a woman is aroused, it increased to 4.25 inches to
4.75 inches. Also, in a study by McFadden in Obstetrics and Gynecology,
the diameter of the average vagina range was only 0.83 inches to 1.77
inches wide! These are rather small places compared to most penises!!
Regardless of how long or wide the vagina is, the area that is thought
to be important for most women’s sexual response is the outer one-third.
The outer one-third is where the most nerve endings reside and what
typically is the most sexually stimulating for women. However, this
isn’t the case for all women, but you’ll often find that it’s a better
feeling to have a thicker penis than a longer one. More often than not
the longer ones actually hurt if care is not taken when pounding the
cervix wall. Aggressive men with average penis can actually hurt their
lover. So, guys, listen to your lovers requests and body language, and
adjust as necessary. Some women have “graduated” to taking larger
penises, but that’s generally because they want to be able to take them.
I think the slang term is “Size Queen” when they care nothing but how
big their lovers penis is. For the majority of the time this is not the
case for women. Women tend to be emotional creatures that are not just
aroused by sight or touch, but more by the emotional connection they
have with their man. Women want to feel desired, craved, but most
importantly understood and listened too. When they feel security with
you they will almost always be less guarded. Here are a few steps you
can take that may help with her pleasure that could result in more
confidence in you:
- Pay attention to her! Make her feel like the only person in the world
- Listen to what she is talking about. If shes having problems don’t try to fix them unless she asks! JUST LISTEN!
- Ask her what brings her pleasure the most and do it
- Don’t treat sex as your means to get off. Sex is about pleasing your partner, so focus on them…this goes for you too ladies.
- Take your time with her. Rub on her, tease her, play with her, and even use toys when needed/wanted.
- Do research on how you can better stimulate a woman. Women can have intense orgasms and even squirt if you do it right.
- MOST IMPORTANTLY is communicate with each other in a safe, open, non-judgemental space. If you want to get kinky, just set the rules and do it.
I know it took me a while to write this blog post and I deeply apologize for that. I was without a computer (other than work…yikes!) for a while, and I wasn’t able to really do much. Trying to work from an iPhone is hard! My reason for writing this is I understand how difficult it can be for men to feel secure about their bodies. What most men may not realize is woman are actually more self conscious about our bodies that they are! A woman always feels judged by another woman, which is unfortunately the case. We are a hazard of our own doing! The key take away is your penis always looks small to you because you’re looking down at it, but I’ve learned that your penis is actually bigger than you may think. The most important thing is women don’t put much stock in how big your penis is as long as it can do the job for her.
In closing, I want each of you to work yourself up into more confidence by letting it “hang out” more often. You should certainly go naked at home as much as possible and always try to look at yourself in the mirror as often as possible. Being comfortable in your own skin at home will carry over into social situations. Another thing you can try is to actually look at other penis’s. Not just searching online at adult performers, but look in the locker room, join an online group where you can share penis pics, or attend a nude social event. I think it’s best for you when you are around REAL people and not common adult performer arena…they only take the few guys with big dicks. Too fake for me. I like to see real, candid people.
Much love and more nudity,