I know I am not the only who sometimes feels like their life is out of balance. I’m not just talking about a work, life, family, and personal time balance, but more of a total body imbalance. Over the past several months…well, probably at least a year now, I haven’t felt like I was in a fully balanced state emotionally, spiritually, and even nutritionally for a very long time. I think this has been the biggest reason for my long lapse in being consistent with my writings, and why I have been reclusive in many aspects of my life. I’ve been searching for that balance and never even realized it. I began to realize this week that I needed to reset myself and begin to focus on what was bringing me out of balance, and identify the steps required to help bring that balance back into my life. Spoiler alert: My nudity and wine alone could not fix this full body imbalance, but I am working on identifying the steps to bring this back into my life. Here are a few things I have identified so far that I feel my body, mind, and spirit are yearning for.
Naked In Nature
I am extremely guilty of hiding within the confines of my home and enjoying my nakedness alone, and over the last two years it’s been difficult for me to get outside and be one with nature. Two years ago, the ex and I came to an agreement where we would do what’s called “bird nesting”. Basically, the premise is the marital children stay in the home, and the parents take turns staying in the home with the kids. This was a drastic change from when we initially separated and I stayed in the home, but the girls went back and forth between here and their Nana’s, where the ex was staying. While the ex was staying at his mothers house, I would often go many days, even up to 5 days naked at home. It was the middle of COVID and working from home was the only option. I would often sit on my back porch during the day and work naked while drinking my coffee. It was a very glorious time for me and a time when I felt like my best. In February, 2020, we ended up getting an apartment to share. While we were doing this bird nesting thing, we would take turns between the apartment and the marital home. This worked out great financially, but as time went on it became worse and worse for me. I was able to get a lot of naked time, up to four days, but I was confined to that damned apartment with no escape. While it was a good “vacation home”, it was doing a lot of bad things for me mentally. Thankfully, now, we have come to an agreement where I get to keep the house as part of the divorce, and he has found a house to rent. Now we are completely independent of one another and I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Finally, I have my home back. It was very pretty here today with temperatures in the 80’s, and I was able to spend some time on my back porch naked while working. Being able to work outside in my screened in porch area is such a blessing. Even as I write this I am sitting here on Thursday evening naked and drinking wine. Amazing. Anyway, I don’t always get to work from home now, but I will be choosing to work from home on the days where it’s good to be naked outside. Even if I have an incident today where the neighbor drove by while I was standing out here stretching my legs, I will still be enjoying my work from home days out here.
In addition to spending more days working outside naked, I will be getting out in nature more often too. I’m not sure how much time I will get each week or month, but I’m certainly going to make this a priority to get out into nature and do some naked walks at least once a month on the weekends when the weather is warm. I miss those early morning hikes I would do on the Appalachian Trail back home in Tennessee. I loved the early morning fog you would see while hiking and looking down over the valleys below from some of the lookout spots. It’s been almost ten years since I have been able to do that and I miss it greatly. I was often very afraid during those times because of thru-hikers trying to hike the entire Trail, but the older I get the less I seem to care about some incidental sighting of me. I think this realization helped spark my bucket lists adventures I wrote about last week. I’m sure some of you have come to this realization already, but, if not, then I can’t wait for you to get there. It’s really freeing to just not give a damn…mostly. I feel like spending time naked in nature is essential to the overall well-being and mental stability of us all. I have received many emails from readers stating they have a lot of secluded land around them, and they are able to take long, naked hikes throughout the day, and they have said this time in nature is essential for them. I’m finally starting to see that myself, and I hate I have missed out for so long.
Spending Time In Prayer And Devotion
I wholeheartedly believe we are meant to be spiritual beings, and that we have a higher power at play in our lives. Whether you believe in God, Allah, Buddha, Life-Force Energy, the Universe, or the internal spirit of yourself, I believe we are called to have a faith in something greater than ourselves. Personally, I do believe in God and I do have a personal relationship with Christ. This is my personal preference but I don’t force it down someone’s throat. Like nudism, I will speak to it if asked about it, but I don’t broadcast or preach on it from a pedestal. Why do I feel this is important? On most occasions, I spend my devotional and prayer time naked and exposed before God. If God is the all knowing being that we believe He is, then it doesn’t matter if I have clothes on or not. I mean, according to Him, we were created in his image and were naked in the Garden of Eden. Why should I hide behind any shame of my body or sin from God? He already knows it according to His word and Christian beliefs. When I take this time for prayer, meditation, and devotion, I am saying that I want to be fully vulnerable and expose anything about me so that I may hand any concerns over to Him to take care of. For me, it’s like passing the wand off to someone else and handing over a problem that I don’t know how to fix or respond to. This allows me to rid myself of any negativity or concerns in my life that are truly out of my control. It’s one thing if it is within my control and I can take care of it, but it’s another if things are out of my control. For example, my ex and trying to get the final divorce decree filed and signed. I don’t have the time or energy to worry about other people doing their job or worrying about their opinion. I just want to live my life and move beyond things that are holding me back. Doing so allows me balance my stress, lower my fear, and manage my anxiety.
For many years I have lived without this spiritual balance in my life, and I can remember a time when I did have this balance knowing I was doing what was required of me. I spent a lot of time over the past few years wondering if God really was there, why would I have been put through all of these trials and hardships, and why did He not love me enough to take care of me? These are all hard questions to answer and could sometimes be impossible for us to answer in the moment, but what I have learned is the troubles we are allowed to go through in life are all part of His plan to make us better and to bring us closer to Him. If you don’t believe that, it is okay, but I’m sure you can relate to hard times in life make you better and give you more of a self awareness that you didn’t have before. I just wish organized religion would teach you that the naked body is not sinful, but man and our impure thoughts are what is sinful. One final thought on it; God knows your heart and your intention, and when your actions have pure thoughts and intentions, then the ‘nakedness’ of your sin will not be shown and the enemy, sin, cannot win. Nudity and Christianity can coexist.
Nutrition is something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I confess, I enjoy a glass or two of wine each night. Not because I need it or have an addiction, but simply because I enjoy it and it’s even better when enjoyed naked. Unfortunately, wine is not the primary concern over my nutrition, and I’m sure most of you can relate to this on many different levels. The older you get and the busier you are, the harder it is for us to adequately prepare foods that are nutritionally good for us. This has shown me how bad things really are for me in terms of nutrition and maintaining a healthy weight and lifestyle.
About 15 years ago, I was seeing a doctor who was an M.D., but she had been studying more naturopathic ways to treat patients. She had been seeing a few Gulf War veterans in her practice, and she was researching why they were having so many issues physically, mechanically, and internally with GI, depression, chronic illnesses that wouldn’t go away. She shared with me that during her research on this, many people, particularly military and veterans, were out of balance with their body’s natural vibrational state. All atoms and molecules are in a constant state of motion, and when the atom and molecules are in their natural state, they are in perfect vibrational harmony. Meaning they are vibrating at their normal frequencies with no change in excitation. Think of it this way…if you are dancing to a song that has a stable and systematic rhythm, then your dance moves will be consistent with the music, but lets say you add in some kind of fast-paced electronic music, then your dance moves will rapidly change to match the music. This is kind of how our bodies natural vibration works. In harmony with nature, our bodies and organs vibrate at a particular frequency. When our body is in a vibrational harmonic state, we are less susceptible to disease, sickness, and even death from those sicknesses. The major things that affect our vibrational frequencies are the foods we put in to our bodies. Eating foods that are not in their natural state, meaning raw, then we are taking a chance on altering the vibrational state of our body, and the longer we are out of balance, the more likely we are to experience diseases. Years ago I followed her guidance and had a number of issues disappear, so now I am refocusing myself to return to this state.
Currently, I am in one of the worst states of my entire life that I have been in physically. Not only have I suffered from weight gain, but I am starting to have back pain more frequently, my knees have started to hurt just walking up and down stairs, and I find myself not able to sleep a full 6-8 hours a night. Each day is a struggle to stay awake and I am unable to focus like I once could. My body has become out of balance with it’s natural state and I need to do something. I feel like it is affecting many aspects of my life mentally, emotionally, and physically, and I’m getting tired of feeling this way. My first step is going to be a major overhaul of my diet. I’m going to refocus myself and make out a meal plan that involves more fresh, raw vegetables, swap out red meat for salmon and other fish, and increase my water intake drastically. Maybe I need to begin a natural detox program too to expel a lot of things from my body too. I think that can give me a good starting point baseline to move forward with.
What About You?
I’m curious to know what you do in terms of maintain some kind of balance in your life. I know we all are different and are able to manage ourselves and our bodies in different ways. I’d love to hear what rituals you take to keep yourself balanced personally, professionally, physically, and spiritually, and how those rituals have made your life better. What can you live with and what can you live without? What improvements would you like to make, and do you include nakedness in those improvements? Share your story, because I would love to hear it.
Naked and out of balance,
18 thoughts on “Coming Back Into Balance”
Thank you for sharing, Alexis. I’m glad you are getting back on track!
I am also a man of faith, and people are often shocked to learn that I’m a Christian AND a nudist. The only thing that makes nudity impure is a person’s thoughts and actions towards it.
I have felt an imbalance lately as well. The last half of 2022, I was in a very depressive state, and couldn’t drag myself out of it. I’m doing better this year, though. Why? Refocusing my joy in God, healthy eating, and social nudity. I still do a fair amount of figure modeling, I have found a great naked yoga community, and am dedicated to the things that bring me joy.
I hope the both of us continue to do better for ourselves.
Hi Thomas! I am so sorry you have been on the struggle bus too. It’s no fun at all!! However, it’s great to hear that you have been refocusing your attention and giving yourself the care you need! You have chosen all the right things to help bring your life back into balance, and finding a great community to support you, especially a naked one! I am a huge believer of happiness being a choice we make and we do the things that bring us the most joy in laugh. I know that is not always possible with any level of depression, particularly severe, but if we have the ability to change the narrative of our story in our minds, then we should certainly do that and focus on the joys of life. I have been saying 2023 is going to be my year, and so far it hasn’t disappointed. There is no hope, we will do better for ourselves this year and continue to grow!
I was glad to see an update on how you are doing, Alexis. I’ve been coming into my spiritual self as of late, finding my way through a program called Recovery Dharma. People from all walks of life come together on Zoom to meditate and reflect on Buddhist principles (though you do not have to be Buddhist to attend…most people aren’t, actually). I have learned so much about myself and the meetings are always calming and focusing. So that is one of the ways that I have caring for myself. Another form of self-care for me is a good book in a hot bath. Nothing better! I’ve also found that instead of watching TV at bedtime, and reading my book instead, I’ve been sleeping better…which helps my overall outlook. I work from home three days per week and on those days, I often don’t get dressed. It is snowing here now so I’ve been wearing warm pajamas, but I can’t wait till it gets a bit warmer and I can feel the sun on my bare skin. Have a fabulous day! XOXO
Thank you for your reply and suggestions on how you are dealing with the struggles of life. I have never heard of Recovery Dharma, but I am certainly going to look it up and read on it. I think many people are in search of an inner peace that is often found through some form of organized religion or spiritual discovery. While it may not be for everyone and some believe it’s just a bunch of hokum, you will find that both ancient and modern medicine (particularly mental health) feel there is a place for meditation and prayer time. It gives our minds a few moments to clear out the things in our life that are dragging us down.
The one thing I love to do when I am home alone is run a hot bath with some Epsom salt, light a few candles, and lay in my tub for a while to relax. Most of the time I will turn on the Jacuzzi jets and let the water massage my body all over. Occasionally, I will bring a book and a glass of wine to allow my mind to escape for a bit. It’s heavenly. My therapist has told me that I should journal and write down whatever is on my mind before I go to bed. This is supposed to help you “get rid” of things on your mind to help the mind rest and not think on what’s going on. I have yet to try it, but you have me thinking now to do something quiet just before bed.
Working from home is the best thing ever, and I wish I could do it full time again. I have been looking for a good opportunity and have applied to some jobs that are fully remote, but nothing yet. I have found the more time I spend naked the better I feel mentally. While it can get cold at times, I always keep my fleece robe or heater nearby to keep me warm, regardless of the weather outside. Not everyone can or chooses to do that, but for me it’s so much more helpful. However, I will say that when you’re cold, there’s no greater feeling than some fuzzy pjs to bring your body back up to temperature!!
Keep holding your head up and focusing on what is most important to you. As the saying goes “this too shall pass”.
Alexis your post shook my ‘blocked in overtime’ mindset and made me rethink the true purpose of life. Like “The Naked Man’ and yourself, I am also a believer in Jesus Christ and a nudist at the same time. Like both of you, I went through a bad emotional, professional, and spiritual time the last few months. I took a week off from work to spend a serious rethink on life while reflecting naked the whole time. While meditating in my backyard one morning, I was watching the wild garden birds fighting over the fresh feeds that I put out a few minutes before – and then I had the revelation. So, to answer your question on what I did to bring balance back into my life, allow me to break it down a little.
PERSONALY: I took action by taking time off from work to reflect on ‘me’ and not on others around me.
PROFESSIONALLY: I put up a new ‘action plan’ with new goals that I could achieve – not what the world, family, or work people expects of me.
PHYSICALLY: I realized (like you) that I have neglected my eating habits because of work stress, and business travels. So, i decided to go back to my original diet to eat fresh fruits and vegetables and to make sure I eat healthy to look after my body and mind – and it made a huge difference.
SPIRITUALLY: I build myself a new ‘house altar’ at home where I could reflect on meditation and Bible study. The new layout changed my daily practice and although my rituals stayed the same, it gave me new insight and inner peace.
As far as improvements to my living arrangements and outdoor nudist lifestyle concerns, I made a conscious decision to go on a nature walk at a naturist resort on a monthly basis. My experience in being out in nature while naked, reconnects your inner spirit back to reality and brings inner peace, and balance, to the mind that is needed to ‘survive’ in the messed-up world that we live in.
Be blessed and enjoy ‘our’ nakedness in harmony with nature and our inner self.
Wow! That is an amazing plan of action and certainly one that is really working for you! I took some off in January to do just what you did, but I don’t feel like I was as successful. haha. If I had been it wouldn’t have take me over a month begin to figure things out. Our professional life can be a major drag on our overall well-being, and the older I get the more I realize it’s not the top priority in our lives. Yes, we need to make a living and be able to provide for ourselves and our families, but at what cost and how much do we sacrifice are the key questions. For me, I’m willing to sacrifice less and less, and I am not willing to compromise on it very much.
You have made the right choice to have a dedicated space for prayer and reflection. These are great sanctuaries where you can go for prayer and meditation, and not have to worry about any outside distractions. I think mine is my tub with a few candles lit in the dark.
I wish I had a resort or reservation nearby that I could easily go to. Unfortunately, I do not and I will have to search out places in my area where I can find a secluded place to go. I’m certain this time in nature will give me additional energy I need and bring me back to peace with nature.
Keep up the great work!
Thank you for your post. Your story is very relatable and I know there’s lots more to be said.
For me, balance rhymes with inner peace. For many years my job has been a source stress and anxiety. I meet a lot of different people on a daily basis. Today and just this morning I see it now as an opportunity. A laboratory to analyse, test and observe myself and others. What I’ve found so far is quite inspiring. I see to how much as humans we tend to set and have unrealistic, unattainable and impossible objectives that make us always feel negative and weak. I also tend to do this as well and it makes me procrastinate or even abandon.
I keep 2 gratitude journals one for the morning and one for the night-time before I go to bed. I pray, I exercise and I’ve embraced nudism and the naturist lifestyle. I didn’t realise just how imbalanced my thoughts even towards myself were.
I’ve decided to share my journey and my joy through my own blogs. I’ve decided to use naturism to advocate and voice for other issues I hold dear. My next project includes having a naturist photo blog. My balance comes through new found purpose and fully embracing my being.
Your words hit home pretty hard for me. I am my own worst critic in so many ways and I think a lot of it spawns from spending 20 years in an emotionally abusive marriage. Many times I don’t feel I am enough or that I have to meet some unrealistic expecation. When you don’t meet those expectations it brings your entire soul down and spreads through your entire life-being. The negativity spreads through every part of your brain and it can be difficult to overcome. Reading your comment makes think about how my own negativity could have a profound impact on my imbalance at times. I really like your idea of having a gratitude journal for both day and night, and, like I told Nora in her comment, I may need to use journaling before bed, but focus on what I am thankful for and positive affirmations. Also, it’s great to hear you have embraced the naked and natural lifestyle! I think it has been the one change in my life, aside from my wonderful boyfriend, that has had the most impact on me. I have been able to find the person I lost, become content and happy with myself, and connect better to life and nature. I will certainly be taking a look your blog to read and follow your progress.
Hi Alexis. Thank you for sharing your story. Balance is indeed good in our lives. I’m Wiccan rather than Christian for a variety of reasons. Not the least of which is Wiccan support for nudity (skyclad) and for being part of nature rather than rulers over nature. Wiccan “prayer and devotion” is often done in nature, and skyclad, but it fills the same emotional need as other religions.
A few years ago my health was about what you describe, somewhat over weight, drinking wine every night, getting older but not getting more healthy. My son got me to look at the carnivore way of eating as our natural biological, and evolutionary diet. Going full carnivore I lost 100 lbs the first year without ever going hungry. Carbs and sugar makes us obese and hungry both. Eating meat and fat balances our biology and our body seamlessly uses stored fat and seeks our healthy weight. I have been eating full carnivore for going on 4 years, and haven’t been this fit and healthy in decades. Carnivore eating even prevents sunburn which is really good for running naked in nature. We have to eat what we are evolved to eat, the apex predators.
I’ve been a free range naturist for more than half a century. Of late I post nude selfies on-line somewhere every day, and moderate a forum on Reddit called “Make Nudity Legal.” Also a forum for “Washington State Nudism.” Meanwhile I post nude selfies on Twitter which as become an active site for nudists. Around home I’m naked outside and often in public places all summer. I’m not the “hide behind fences” nudist. Public nudity will only ever become publicly accepted if enough nudists are seen in public to make it common.
I am always interested in hearing about other people’s thoughts, and what is happening in their life.
I agree. It’s always interesting to see what others are going through and how they overcoming life’s challenges!!
I really enjoyed reading your perspective on these things. I’ve been a Christian for a long time but within the last year I’ve really fully practiced nudism as a Christian and it has been such a blessing. Now pretty much all of my personal prayer time at home is spent nude and I feel so much better. Every morning before I leave for work I pray naked and it’s made work so much more peaceful for me. On off days I have an extended time of nude prayer and worship and I experience the power and presence of God in such a wonderful way. I never want to go back to thinking I have to hide behind clothes to seek God. Thank God for freedom from shame. I want to continue to stand in freedom and not be entangled again in bondage, as it says in Galatians 5:1. Anyway I just wanted to share. It’s great to know the difference God has made in your life as a nudist as well. God bless you.
Thank you for your comment and sharing your daily routine with nudity and prayer. It’s great hear how you have embraced a naked lifestyle and how it has enhanced your prayer life with God. I honestly feel there are more people of faith who embrace the naked life than what we realize. To me, at the end of the day, the only thing that matters for a person of faith is your ability to enhance your relationship with God. I feel like that vulnerability and your ability to not be shameful in front of God shows your willingness to submit to him as a disciple. Keep living your naked life and making your bond stronger, no matter what anyone says. Our nude body isn’t shameful, it’s the sin of man (meaning all humans) that is shameful. Keep your mind and thoughts pure, and let your nakedness shine.
Thanks for your post Alexis. I can relate to your thoughts and to a lot of the comments shared already. I’m also a Christian and a naturist who spends my devotional time nude. I relish my nude time in nature as well whenever I can though it’s rare. One of my biggest forms of maintaining balance in my life has been the morning ritual of nude yoga. I usually just follow along with a YouTube yoga video though I have participated in a few live classes too. I’m a graduate student and I’ve been struggling a lot with depression, anxiety and perfectionism as I try to write my dissertation. I find that writing in the nude helps… maybe because it makes the whole thing seem less serious? While I can’t be nude in my office I am whenever I write from home. I’ve also been struggling with getting a full night of sleep, often waking up at 4 or 5 in the morning, but I’m starting to accept those nights and am just starting my routine earlier.
Anyway, thanks for your thoughts and the open space to share. It’s helpful to be reminded to prioritize balance especially in a context where others find balance in naturism.
Thank you for taking the time to read and share your thoughts with me. I have learned that seeking and finding the right balance in life is what helps us find our own place of happiness. There are so many things pulling us in so many directions, and sometimes we just get overwhelmed with life. I praise you on your daily routine and it is very important that you keep that up. Our daily routine can help us keep balance as well. It’s consistent!! Graduate school can be very rough and can force you out of balance very quickly. It’s very demanding!! Keep up the great work though because it will certainly pay off for you! I dont’ sleep well either and, like you, some mornings I just end up starting my day a little bit earlier!
Love this post Alexis! You’re 💯 correct balance is the key to everything. It truly helps me to try to maintain a healthy mind and body. I’m setting more time aside for Godly prayer, and added more time to listen for God’s answers than to ask in prayer. Being a Christian this is very important to me. I’m getting at least 20 minutes of cardio 3 days a week, time in the sun and swimming too. All clothes free!! My water intake is way up and I’ve reduced my daily coffee to a cup and a half. All of this helps me be a better husband, father and Christian. Than you for this post!
Thank you for your kind words. I think balance in your life is a key part of happiness and contentment, and I am glad that you have been able to find that. At the very least you are on the path to happiness. Exercise is very important to physical and mental health, and I enjoy my workout time very much. Unfortunately, when I use the gym at work I cannot workout naked as I would like. 🙂 Keep up the great work and continue to make the right choices that will help you be better as a father, husband, and a Christian.