With each passing day and week I am becoming more and more comfortable allowing those in my close circle know that I am typically naked while at home. I will pretty much do anything naked and if I need to quickly go outside for some reason, then I will just slap on a robe before walking out. I do this for getting the mail or taking my trash can to the end of the driveway. If it is cool out, like it is now, then I will put a robe on to sit in my screen porch while I drink my coffee or enjoy a glass of wine in the evening. I find this easier and much less restricting that having to try and throw on pants and a shirt quickly, especially for a delivery or something that requires little time. For a lot of people this is very unnerving and somewhat fairly uncomfortable, which is very understandable for many reasons. The sad truth is this is not a norm most are used to and it’s very difficult to actually take that leap. However, once you do, it will forever change your life, if you allow it to.
Nakedness Opens Your Mind
Mike and I were talking about this last night on the phone, and as part of a conversation about the struggles couples go through, I stated the older I get the less I care about societal norms, political views and affiliations, and medias influence on our ability to think for ourselves. I’m not going to get on a soapbox this morning, but it’s very unfortunate how we as a society are so closed-minded that we can’t think outside of what we are expected to think. I think we are making progress in a lot of areas, but at the same time these progresses come with their detriments too. No matter what your scientific, political, religious, or any other views are, most people will stand by their view and belief that the group they stand for is the one and only right group. This can even boil over into the nudist and naturist community as well. I’ve read many views from nudist individuals that show some for of prejudice, however, these are a very rare occurrence.
Let’s explore how a naked life can help you open up your mind. When was the last time you did something you weren’t “supposed” to do? I remember the first time I had alcohol as a teenager. I knew this was something I was not supposed to be doing, but the joy of doing something that wasn’t socially acceptable (or legal) was very exhilarating and fun. I felt like I was making my own decisions, living like an adult, and beginning understand what it was like to grow up. Granted, this was a very foolish way to explore this, but I’m pretty certain most of you have done this or worse. I have had very few of these moments in my life, and that is simply because I was never one to venture outside the norm often. I always had the mindset that I need to do what is expected and what is right. This is the general expectation for us as contributing members of society, and I think we should all continue to do so. There has to be some form of order, but when it comes to making decision on how you live your life, who you choose as your partner, where you work, what your job is, or even how many people you want to sleep with, it’s of no one else’s concern. Does your decision break the law or negatively affect someone you love? If not, then who cares what anyone else thinks. This is where the power of choosing to explore and try living as a nudist, naturist, clothes free, nudie, or any other term for someone who enjoys being naked. You can allow yourself to discover who you are without fear of judgement, you can make friends who enjoy being naked, and you can significantly boost your confidence in yourself and your body.
Nudity Improves Self-Image and Confidence
What is the one thing we all worry about? Without a doubt it’s our body. We are so concerned about small hangups and imperfections that it begins to control us if we let it. I don’t believe these hangups or self-image issues are a consequence of our own doing, but I think they have an effect from things we hear starting from childhood. Everyone knows that seeing a child naked is really no big deal up to the point near puberty. I was naked all the time as a child, both my girls were naked a lot, and even Mike’s 5 year old son is constantly naked. In nearly everyone’s eyes that is acceptable. Why? Because it’s innocent with no sexual agenda. As we get older we are told to put on clothes to cover ourselves and we become more aware of our bodies, other peoples bodies, and how our bodies don’t look like their bodies. Also, you may have parents, partners, and school mates make comments about our bodies that causes us a lot of insecurities. Even in my 40’s I hear other women make comments about someone else’s appearance. Granted, they don’t tell this person to their face, but they are thinking and saying it behind someone’s back. All of this combined with the perfect bodies you see through television, social media, and even pornography can force you to believe that you have no beauty and are undesirable.
Mike has some new neighbors that are around our age, and although they have a great relationship, are best friends, and can talk about anything to each other, they both have a number of insecurities about themselves. While talking to Mike last night, his neighbors came into the conversation and he was telling me about some things they were talking to him about. Apparently, the husband is very insecure about himself in a number of ways. He is maybe average height or a bit shorter, has concerns about his performance, and doesn’t like the size of his penis. He went on to say that his wife is insecure in her body, feels fat, and ugly sometimes. Sadly, I’m sure this is a problem with most couples, especially as we get older. Stuff just doesn’t look as youthful and we tend to hide this under our clothes or with the lights out. Of course, Mike understood the feelings they were having, and he told me that he bragged on me a bit while having this conversation. Mike proceeded to say that never in his life has he felt comfortable being naked around any partner, and that he had exes make comments about his weight or appearance even when he was at his smallest. He told them I completely changed the way he feels about himself, and while he said he doesn’t constantly think about being naked all the time, Mike did say that he has no problem with me seeing him naked. I told him this was all part of my plan and my goal is for him to have the same desire to be naked as do…at least have the desire to be naked with me.
Now that he has made that comment about how I helped him see that no matter what his body looks like I will always admire, cherish, and desire him, I am ready to share my experience and thoughts with them of how living naked has helped my overall confidence, mental health, sexual health, and my ability to have an open mind and think freely on many things. Last night I told Mike they each need to practice being naked more often, and they need to be naked together as much as possible too. When I chose to live a naked life during the initial COVID outbreak, I quickly realized it was something I needed in my life. It was necessary for my mental health and a way for me to feel relaxed and have self-love. Once I began living on my own I would embrace every opportunity to be naked. This was not so I could just act silly, pretend to be letting loose, or suffering from a mid-life crisis, this was was what I needed to start being comfortable with my body again, see myself and all my imperfections, accept who/what I am, and finally rediscover who I am as a person and what I believe in. I was adamant about bringing these views and newfound self into any new relationship. So far it has helped in more ways than I could have ever hoped for.
My goal is to offer up a portion or even all of my story to this couple, and with Mikes help maybe show them the way to bring nudity into their marriage to overcome insecurities, spark the sexual desire for one another, and show them the joys and benefits of living a naked life. Who knows, maybe we will all become new naked friends!
Nudity is Vulnerability
I have written about this recently in my last couple of blog posts, and one thing nudity has brought me is how to be vulnerable. This is not just vulnerable with myself in the confines of my home and property, but this is being vulnerable in relationships, professional settings, and even my prayer and meditation time. For so many years I was not really allowed to be vulnerable. I was not told to not be vulnerable, but I was never in an emotionally safe place to actually feel vulnerable. I could never really open up to anyone about anything…ever. This began to become a very lonely place for me because I never felt like I had someone I could fully confide in. The one person I was supposed to be able to be vulnerable with wouldn’t allow the safety to be vulnerable. Once I re-discovered the naked life, I realized quickly there is no more vulnerable state than being naked.
When you are naked there is literally nothing for you to hide. Every insecurity and bad thought you have about yourself is being exposed for everyone to see, and I think the hardest part to overcome was my own view of myself. One thing about being human is life happens, our bodies change, we have surgeries, kids, and we age. It’s very hard to let go of the youthfulness we remember and see ourselves in pictures of the past. It’s a hard pill to swallow but worth it so you can feel good about yourself and accept your body for how it is.
For me, I needed to be vulnerable. I needed to understand what it meant to be vulnerable and the first place I started was with myself. The fact that you are naked is one thing, but forcing yourself to look at your body in mirror, analyze every aspect, find any imperfection, and constantly remind yourself that it’s okay to not have a perfect body is much more difficult. This was a necessary step for me to learn to accept and love myself for who I am, and once I was able to do that, I was able to share that with others to help them become more vulnerable with themselves.
One of the main reasons I needed to be comfortable with being vulnerable was I wanted to find a partner and friends that I can share who I truly am. I want to be able to share when I am feeling uncertain about things, the little joys in my life, when I screw up, or when I just need someone to cry to when I am having a bad day. I wanted and needed people in my life that loved and cared for me no matter who or what I am, and I knew going forward in the next stages of my life that I would require that from those in my closest circle. If you can’t lean on and trust family and loved ones, then you end up in a very lonely place. Don’t be lonely like I was. Get naked. Be vulnerable. Learn to trust yourself and those who are closest to you.
Nakedness Brings Joy
The key to life is to have fun and find joy in things each and everyday. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t find some kind of joy with my nakedness. At least once a day Mike and I will share a silly pic of something we are doing or did do naked. We will sit and laugh about these things on the phone, FaceTime, or Signal Video. We are both goofy and silly in so many ways, and I will use my naked body as a way to bond our silliness. I will often do some kind of silly dance while on video or send a funny pic with stupid e-stickers on various places on my body. You can do similar things while at home together. Turn on some music and just dance naked together or even with friends. I’m 100% certain the fun of what you’re doing will always overshadow the fact that you are naked or have any insecurities. One thing we have talked about doing is body paint together and painting each other.
This spring we have plans to travel down to Asheville, NC, stay at a nice place, go hiking in the Appalachian Mountains, and maybe visit Biltmore Estate. We won’t be able to do all of these things naked, but I said I wanted to hike up to somewhere secluded and enjoy being naked in the mountains again. I miss being able to take an early morning hike and get naked for an hour before work, and just reconnecting with nature as I enjoy the world around me. There are so many things I want to explore and find joy in being naked, and I truly hope you will be able to do the same, regardless if it’s alone or with friends and loved ones.
Get naked. Stay naked.